حَدَّثَنَا
مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عِيسَى بْنُ الطَّبَّاعِ , حَدَّثَنَا
مَطَرُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الْأَعْنَقُ , حَدَّثَتْنِي
أُمُّ أَبَانَ بِنْتُ الْوَازِعِ بْنِ زَارِعٍ , عَنْ جِدِّهَا
زَارِعٍ , وَكَانَ فِي وَفْدِ عَبْدِ الْقَيْسِ , قَالَ : " لَمَّا قَدِمْنَا الْمَدِينَةَ , فَجَعَلْنَا نَتَبَادَرُ مِنْ رَوَاحِلِنَا , فَنُقَبِّلُ يَدَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَرِجْلَهُ , قَالَ : وَانْتَظَرَ الْمُنْذِرُ الْأَشَجُّ حَتَّى أَتَى عَيْبَتَهُ , فَلَبِسَ ثَوْبَيْهِ , ثُمَّ أَتَى النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , فَقَالَ لَهُ : إِنَّ فِيكَ خَلَّتَيْنِ يُحِبُّهُمَا اللَّهُ : الْحِلْمُ وَالْأَنَاةُ , قَالَ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ , أَنَا أَتَخَلَّقُ بِهِمَا أَمْ اللَّهُ جَبَلَنِي عَلَيْهِمَا ؟ قَالَ : بَلِ اللَّهُ جَبَلَكَ عَلَيْهِمَا , قَالَ : الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ الَّذِي جَبَلَنِي عَلَى خَلَّتَيْنِ يُحِبُّهُمَا اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ " .
Narrated al-Wazi ibn Zari: Umm Aban, daughter of al-Wazi ibn Zari, quoting his grandfather, who was a member of the deputation of AbdulQays, said: When we came to Madina, we raced to be first to dismount and kiss the hand and foot of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. But al-Mundhir al-Ashajj waited until he came to the bundle of his clothes. He put on his two garments and then he went to the Prophet ﷺ. He said to him: You have two characteristics which Allah likes: gentleness and deliberation. He asked: Have I acquired them or has Allah has created (them) my nature? He replied: No, Allah has created (them) in your nature. He then said: Praise be to Allah Who has created in my nature two characteristics which Allah and His Messenger like.
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Umar Farooq Saeedi
Benefits and Issues:
➊ This narration is weak, and according to Shaykh al-Albani rahimahullah, the mention of the feet in it is not authentic. Thus, kissing the hands is permissible.
➋ Being courageous and dignified enhances a person's honor, whereas haste does not befit a dignified person.
➌ If good habits are natural, one should praise Allah (azza wa jall) and remain steadfast upon them. If they are not natural, a person should strive to cultivate good habits.
Source: Sunan Abu Dawood – Commentary by Shaykh Umar Farooq Saeedi, Page: 5225