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Hadith 3129
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حَدَّثَنَا هَنَّادُ بْنُ السَّرِيِّ ، عَنْ عَبْدَةَ ، وأبي معاوية ، المعني عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ ، قَالَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ ، فَذُكِرَ ذَلِكَ لِعَائِشَةَ ، فَقَالَتْ : وَهِلَ تَعْنِي ابْنَ عُمَرَ ؟ إِنَّمَا مَرَّ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَلَى قَبْرٍ ، فَقَالَ : إِنَّ صَاحِبَ هَذَا لَيُعَذَّبُ ، وَأَهْلُهُ يَبْكُونَ عَلَيْهِ " . ثُمَّ قَرَأَتْ : وَلا تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَى سورة الأنعام آية 164 . قَالَ عَنْ أَبِي مُعَاوِيَةَ : عَلَى قَبْرِ يَهُودِيٍّ .
Narrated Ibn Umar: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ as saying: The dead is punished because of his family's weeping for him. When this was mentioned to Aishah, she said: Ibn Umar forgot and made a mistake. The Prophet ﷺ passed by grave and he said: The man in the grave is being punished while his family is weeping for him. She then recited: "No bearer of burdens can bear the burden of another. " The narrator Abu Muawiyyah said: (The Prophet passed) by the grave of a Jew.
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Brief Explanation
1؎: «إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ» The deceased is punished due to the weeping of his family members, even though weeping or lamentation itself is not the action of the deceased. Thus, it is surprising that he is punished for the action of another, whereas Allah the Exalted has said «ولا تزر وازرة وزر أخرى» "No bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another." In this regard, the scholars have said that if the deceased knew that after his death his family would lament over him, and despite having the ability, he did not forbid them from it before his death, then his not forbidding them will be a cause of punishment for him. And if his family members are shedding tears without wailing and lamentation, then this is permissible, just as tears flowed from the eyes of the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) himself at the passing of Ibrahim and Umm Kulthum. When asked about this, he (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said that this is mercy which Allah has placed in the hearts of whomever He wills.
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Umar Farooq Saeedi
Benefits and Issues:
Whether the deceased is a disbeliever or, hypothetically, even a Muslim, if he has made a bequest for wailing (noha) to be performed or is pleased with this act, then he will be punished due to his family members wailing over him.
In this case, his being punished
is not contrary to the aforementioned verse.
However, if he was averse to this act and had forbidden it,
and then those who remain after him commit this un-Islamic act,
then he will be free from it.
Therefore, believers should strictly instruct their heirs to refrain from wailing or lamentation.
Hazrat Aisha (radi Allahu anha) considered this hadith to be contrary to this verse.
That is why she interpreted it as mentioned above, whereas in reality, according to the aforementioned meaning, there is no contradiction between this hadith and the verse.
Therefore, this hadith is also authentic in the manner
in which Hazrat Ibn Umar (radi Allahu anhu) has narrated it.
Whether the deceased is a disbeliever or, hypothetically, even a Muslim, if he has made a bequest for wailing (noha) to be performed or is pleased with this act, then he will be punished due to his family members wailing over him.
In this case, his being punished
is not contrary to the aforementioned verse.
However, if he was averse to this act and had forbidden it,
and then those who remain after him commit this un-Islamic act,
then he will be free from it.
Therefore, believers should strictly instruct their heirs to refrain from wailing or lamentation.
Hazrat Aisha (radi Allahu anha) considered this hadith to be contrary to this verse.
That is why she interpreted it as mentioned above, whereas in reality, according to the aforementioned meaning, there is no contradiction between this hadith and the verse.
Therefore, this hadith is also authentic in the manner
in which Hazrat Ibn Umar (radi Allahu anhu) has narrated it.
Source: Sunan Abu Dawood – Commentary by Shaykh Umar Farooq Saeedi, Page: 3129
