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سنن ابي داود
Abu Dawud
كتاب النكاحMarriage (Kitab Al-Nikah)
باب فِي الْقَسْمِ بَيْنَ النِّسَاءِChapter: Dividing (Fairly) Between One’s Wives.
Hadith 2135
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ يُونُسَ ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ يَعْنِي ابْنَ أَبِي الزِّنَادِ ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ ، قَالَ : قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ : " يَا ابْنَ أُخْتِي ، كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَا يُفَضِّلُ بَعْضَنَا عَلَى بَعْضٍ فِي الْقَسْمِ مِنْ مُكْثِهِ عِنْدَنَا ، وَكَانَ قَلَّ يَوْمٌ إِلَّا وَهُوَ يَطُوفُ عَلَيْنَا جَمِيعًا ، فَيَدْنُو مِنْ كُلِّ امْرَأَةٍ مِنْ غَيْرِ مَسِيسٍ حَتَّى يَبْلُغَ إِلَى الَّتِي هُوَ يَوْمُهَا فَيَبِيتَ عِنْدَهَا ، وَلَقَدْ قَالَتْ سَوْدَةُ بِنْتُ زَمْعَةَ حِينَ أَسَنَّتْ وَفَرِقَتْ أَنْ يُفَارِقَهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ، يَوْمِي لِعَائِشَةَ ، فَقَبِلَ ذَلِكَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مِنْهَا ، قَالَتْ : نَقُولُ فِي ذَلِكَ أَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى ، وَفِي أَشْبَاهِهَا أُرَاهُ ، قَالَ : وَإِنِ امْرَأَةٌ خَافَتْ مِنْ بَعْلِهَا نُشُوزًا سورة النساء آية 128 " .
Narrated Hisham bin Urwah: On the authority of his father that Aishah said: O my nephew, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ did not prefer one of us to the other in respect of his division of the time of his staying with us. It was very rare that he did not visit us any day (i. e. he visited all of us every day). He would come near each of his wives without having intercourse with her until he reached the one who had her day and passed his night with her. When Saudah daughter of Zam'ah became old and feared that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ would divorce her, she said: Messenger of Allah, I give to Aishah the day you visit me. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ accepted it from her. She said: We thing that Allah, the Exalted, revealed about this or similar matter the Quranic verse: "If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part. . . . " [4: 128]
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Explanation & Benefits
Maulana Dawood Raz
Hadith Commentary:
Lady Sawdah radi Allahu anha did this in her old age so that the Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would not divorce her.
Lady Sawdah radi Allahu anha did this in her old age so that the Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would not divorce her.
Source: Sahih Bukhari: Commentary by Maulana Dawood Raz, Page: 5212
Shaykh Abdul Sattar al-Hammad
Hadith Commentary:
(1)
In one narration, it is clarified that when Sawda bint Zam‘a radi Allahu anha became advanced in age and feared that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam might separate from her, she said:
O Messenger of Allah! I give my turn to Aisha radi Allahu anha.
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam accepted her request.
(Sunan Abi Dawud, Kitab al-Nikah, Hadith: 2135)
(2)
When someone gifts her turn to a co-wife, then she will receive the same day as her own turn.
If it is consecutive, then she will have two days in a row; otherwise, there will be a gap between those days.
If the remaining wives agree to the subsequent days, then she may also receive two days together.
(Fath al-Bari: 9/388)
(1)
In one narration, it is clarified that when Sawda bint Zam‘a radi Allahu anha became advanced in age and feared that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam might separate from her, she said:
O Messenger of Allah! I give my turn to Aisha radi Allahu anha.
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam accepted her request.
(Sunan Abi Dawud, Kitab al-Nikah, Hadith: 2135)
(2)
When someone gifts her turn to a co-wife, then she will receive the same day as her own turn.
If it is consecutive, then she will have two days in a row; otherwise, there will be a gap between those days.
If the remaining wives agree to the subsequent days, then she may also receive two days together.
(Fath al-Bari: 9/388)
Source: Hidayat al-Qari: Commentary on Sahih Bukhari, Urdu, Page: 5212
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:
➊
For a husband to spend the night with his wife according to the turn (bari) is the right of the woman; therefore, she can also forgo her right and give it to someone else.
➋
Leaving one's turn does not mean that all the rights of the woman are forfeited.
In such a case, the man should pay special attention to fulfilling the other rights.
➌
It was not obligatory upon the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) to stay with his wives according to the turn (bari).
Allah the Exalted said:
“Of them, you may put off whom you please, and you may take to yourself whom you please; and if you desire any whom you have set aside, there is no blame on you.” ( , al-Ahzab: 51)
Despite this, the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) would observe the turns.
This is the perfection of your (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) noble character.
➊
For a husband to spend the night with his wife according to the turn (bari) is the right of the woman; therefore, she can also forgo her right and give it to someone else.
➋
Leaving one's turn does not mean that all the rights of the woman are forfeited.
In such a case, the man should pay special attention to fulfilling the other rights.
➌
It was not obligatory upon the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) to stay with his wives according to the turn (bari).
Allah the Exalted said:
“Of them, you may put off whom you please, and you may take to yourself whom you please; and if you desire any whom you have set aside, there is no blame on you.” ( , al-Ahzab: 51)
Despite this, the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) would observe the turns.
This is the perfection of your (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) noble character.
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 1972
Shaykh Safi ur-Rahman Mubarakpuri
Takhrij:
«أخرجه البخاري، النكاح، باب المرأة تهب يومها من زوجها لضرتها....، حديث:5212، ومسلم، الرضاع، باب جواز هبتها نوبتها لضرتها، حديث:1463.»©Explanation:
From this hadith, it is understood that a wife may give up her turn to another wife.
This concession will be irrevocable and non-returnable, provided that the specific days have not been designated.
«أخرجه البخاري، النكاح، باب المرأة تهب يومها من زوجها لضرتها....، حديث:5212، ومسلم، الرضاع، باب جواز هبتها نوبتها لضرتها، حديث:1463.»©Explanation:
From this hadith, it is understood that a wife may give up her turn to another wife.
This concession will be irrevocable and non-returnable, provided that the specific days have not been designated.
Source: Bulugh al-Maram: Commentary by Safiur Rahman Mubarakpuri, Page: 909
